Go get a shot so you’re more attractive!” According to a local plastic surgeon, “It’s an anti-aging tool that’s not just for mom anymore. Father’s Day is coming up, let’s get some brotox.”
Seriously horrifying. Just like I don’t think we should force women into cosmetic procedures to be more “acceptable” and “feel better” about themselves (after first making them feel worse), we shouldn’t do it to men. Equality doesn’t mean making everyone miserable. It should be about making people happy!
And to that end, this Father’s Day, I’ve seen a ton of posts on social media that extend Father’s Day to mothers who are functioning as both father and mother…but I don’t remember posts for fathers on Mother’s Day, even though there are plenty of men who do the work of both parents. There are single dads who definitely function as both mother and father. So why wasn’t there a wide-spread acknowledgement of that?
Was it that men took it as an insult to take on a feminine role? Or was it that while we’re willing to acknowledge single moms as being successful, we can’t accept that a single father could on the complex dual role?
I really don’t know that there’s a single answer. I think there are probably far more than two reasons why men aren’t always given the respect they deserve for their parenting efforts. We need to be equal in our praise when the actions are equal.
And we need to stop thinking that injecting a form of poison into our faces will fix our problems, regardless of our gender or identity!